Decisions

Decision making can be hard.

I’ve had a few clients in the past week facing some big decisions. While these two quotes may initially appear to be the antithesis of each other, take time to pause and reflect. Staying stuck in a situation because you are afraid to change it will lead to regret. Staying in a situation because you don’t know if it’s time to quit or try harder can drive you mad.

Close your eyes and picture yourself 3 years from now, or next year or even just at Christmas. Picture what life would be like.

  • What would you like to be doing?
  • Are you in the same environment?
  • How does this image feel to you? Does it make you feel relaxed and free, or nervous and tense?
  • Play out different scenarios in your head and pay attention to how your body and mind reacts. Do you sense tension or release, does your heart soar or feel trapped, can you see a slight refocusing of the image or a completely different picture?

When we feel stuck, we often know the answer deep down in our gut. Ignore everyone, deflect advice and give yourself time to connect with what YOU truly want. After all it’s YOUR life. When you feel you have chosen a path, discuss with people you trust, help them colour in the outline for you and feel supported.

I am always here to help you work through the scenarios and we can use a variety of techniques to reconnect with your gut instinct, make the right decision and live a life you truly want to lead xx

The power of positive thought

DO YOU WANT TO FEEL HAPPIER EACH DAY?

Disclaimer: This is not the blog article I thought it was going to be. It was supposed to be about coping with food intolerances and the power of positive thinking but it turned into more of a ‘getting to know me’ post. I often say the phrase ‘but it’s not about me’ but sometimes I wonder how I expect anyone to relate to things I post if they just see me as a goody two-shoes spouting (hopefully) helping advice.

I was chatting to a good friend earlier who reminded me that only 4 years ago I was sat on her settee in floods of tears completely unhappy with my life. My health was suffering, my relationship was in tatters and I was finding my job too demanding. Most of all I didn’t know what to change or how I could do anything about it. I just assumed I was someone who wasn’t one of the lucky ones, whose lives seem so perfect on Facebook.

Fast forward to today and I was babbling on about how much I love my new house, how my husband is awesome and my jobs (note the plural to reflect a patchwork career) are going well. Yes I’m earning less than I used to in the corporate world but my life is so much richer for having changed so completely. The biggest change is that I’M HAPPY EVERY SINGLE DAY. Sounds annoying doesn’t it but you can be an annoying person too!

My biggest obstacle back then? Myself. I was in such a dark place, I couldn’t work out where to go, how to change or even what I wanted to do. If I didn’t have a plan, even just an inkling, how could I take a step forward? I opted for the more extreme version and left my job, my boyfriend and London behind as I headed home to lick my wounds and wonder where it had all gone wrong.

Staying with my parents allowed me a month off work without having to worry about income. I’m pretty sure I spent the first week just sleeping and crying. Then I started reading books of people in far worse scenarios than me who kept going for inspiration (Chris Moon, Jane Tomlinson, Lance Armstrong – before the truth came out). I’ve always been a sucker for a good old Hollywood ‘I changed my life completely’ story and was probably subconsciously looking for a bit of inspiration.

The idea of ‘positive thought’ sounded too American and cheesy to me. Waking up and being thankful for the new day, for a good night’s sleep or for a cooked breakfast? No thanks. But slowly I wondered if there was something in it and although I felt silly, I started to make a list of things I was grateful for and jot down ideas, however outlandish, of what jobs I’d like to have, places to visit and activities to try.

Another friends told me about moodboards and dream planning. Again the cynic in me didn’t understand how making a collage could help but flicking through magazines and Pinterest enabled me to work out a vague idea of what I wanted my life to look like. And it certainly wasn’t living with my parents on the eve of my 30th with a body that felt like it only had 20% battery life left.

So where does that leave me now? Fast forward 4 years and I am:

  • Happily married to someone supportive and caring – √
  • Living in the countryside – √
  • Pursuing my passion of health and wellbeing (having spent the past 3 years retraining) – √
  • Helping other people achieve their potential – OK I can’t put check as that feels too big headed but maybe a tiny nod of indication
  • Listing things I’m grateful for on a daily basis – hell yeah!

Fancy increasing your happiness? Try it for yourself.

 

which of these doe you hear

If it’s the left column, try rewording it into a more encouraging statement.

We have over 60,000 thoughts a day. Why not try to chance at least one of them?

 

Wishing you all a wonderful week,

Sarah x

 

 

 

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Goal planning

YOU HAVE A CHOICE

I’m on a super high after a fabulous and motivating goal planning meeting this morning. I’m bursting with ideas for health + wellness expansion in the future and how to help more people feel better, be happier, have more energy and do what YOU WANT to do.

Remember that great scene in Dangerous Minds with Michelle Pfeiffer asking her class if “I choose to die”? Well that’s what I mean.

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It is both liberating and challenging thinking about what you want to do with you life but incredibly empowering in allowing you to see just how you MAKE THE CHOICE with what you want to do with my life. We all have bills, we all get tired and run down and we all need to keep going and earn money but you get to CHOOSE how to do this.

 

Sounds simple? Maybe but it’s taken me years to learn! 4 years ago I would’ve laughed at this and dismissed it saying I had no time, 3 years ago I started noticing I wasn’t happy, 2 years ago I actively started working towards it and now I’m self-employed as a health and wellness expert practising kinesiology which I love.

Teamwork is essential. I’m part of a fabulous group of 4 professionals (finance, property, marketing + complementary medicine) who meet on a monthly basis to discuss both professional and personal goals for the upcoming month. Having people to help with priority setting and accountability really keeps you on track. Plus having your goals, hopes and dreams written down provides a clear focus and less room for procrastination and ‘excusitis’!

 

STEPS FOR SUCCESS

 

 

Goal planning

 

  • Dream Book 
    • A Blue Peter style moodboard with loads of images of what you want your perfect life to look like. It’s about whatever you want to achieve. This is just for you, where you can store my secrets about what you want my life to look like (second holiday home by the sea anyone?) and keep adding to it.

 

  • Annual plan
    • Time for action planning. You now take those picture perfect images in your head and draw up a plan of how to get there. It could be to get a promotion, to change your job, to exercise more or to finally renovate your house, it doesn’t matter, each require a series of steps towards it. Write down where you want to be in a year and work out measureable steps e.g if you want a career change, Jan – investigate new career courses, Feb – sign up and work one night a week etc.

 

  • Monthly goal setting
    •  This is where the magic happens. Aim to set 3 professional and 3 personal goals for each month, after all don’t we all want a WORK/LIFE balance? Break each one down. For example, I might say: Introduce more people to kinesiology. How? i) Offering Monday discovery sessions, ii) Writing a weekly blog post iii) Giving local talks

 

Want to feel in control of your life? Give it a go! My productivity rate and achievements have soared since start this starting this in January.I know you can do it too! Write down what you want to achieve between now and Christmas and break it down into small sections.

Get in touch if you’d like to take part in a goals planning session.